Interview With 'Gays' Part 18

Christian Anthony Chavez
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Gay

Q: When did you first suspect you were gay?
A: Well for me it was a process, because I was very in the closet. I mean, I guess by the time everyone started devolving sexual attractions, that's the time. I dated a girl, only to put up a show, but soon after we broke up cause I told everyone one the truth that I'm gay. The thing about me is that I don't really like these orientation labels. Of course I'm sexually attracted to guys(never had sex with anyone by the way) but who's to say i won't fall in love (emotionally) with a girl? This is why I don't really like orientation labels, it's too based on sex and doesn't bend to each person's life. So label-y, I'm gay(attracted to guys) I only date guys (duh) but who's to say I won't fall in love with a girl's heart? I think that's the stance everyone should take, to just love regardless and the world will be a better place.

Q: Who was the first person you told?
A: I didn't "Come out" as other people do (dramatic intervention,calling everyone,crying) No, I just lived normally, and people would ask "Are you gay" then I'd answer em, "You don't see straight people saying 'Mom', 'Yes Johnny', 'I'm hetero' 'WHAT',". So why should gay people have to "come out"

Q: Have you ever been harassed by anybody?
A: Oh yeah, by family and by strangers. Once I was walking home from school to my friend's house to have a day of silence party and these two kids came up, hit me in the head and ran away. I wasn't hurt. I don't really care if anyone harasses me or mocks me cause it would make no sense for me too. Tis my life, not theirs.

Q: What are your views on bisexuality?
A:  I believe that bisexuality is real. The human spectrum of sexuality and romantic attractions have a lot of things in between. I have noticed that in the LGBTQ community, there is a lot of hate for bisexuals, which makes no sense at all.

Q: Do you feel that LGBT men are more discriminated against than LGBT women are?
A: I don't think so, there are many different ways that LGBT men and women are discriminated against, but it does sometimes seem that men have more public discrimination then women, and there is also discrimination against straight people who are straight, but everyone messes with them saying "Oh you're acting this way,you must be gay." Even though you're straight.

Q: How do you feel about same-sex couples adopting a child together?
A: How do I feel bout it, I think, I mean, I KNOW that everyone should be allowed to adopt kids. People try to say gay people should not because we are not good role models or that gay people have a higher chance of raping the kids, which is not true at all! It's based on ignorance, pure ignorance. Not only should gay couples be allowed to adopt kids, but there is also another issue, surrogacy. I'm not sure about else where, but here in Texas, who ever has the kid, what woman births the kid, is considered the mother. So lets say that a lesbian couple wants to have another woman have a child, and one of the girls gives her eggs to the girl they want to have the baby, when the girl has the baby, then the government says who ever births the child is the mother and doesn't have to give up the kid. Also our government needs to change on how it sees who is the parents and needs to change to fix for same sex couples.

Q: What is your most hated argument against LGBT?
A: Oh lord, there are so so so many. It either has to be "this is not natural" "it's unholy" or "maybe you have not found the right girl" (which means you should have sex with all these random girls until you're straight) myself, I am an atheist,so I don't really mind the religious aspect, but I do study religions,and if you were to read it, you can see there are a lot of pro-gay things (such as Johnathan and David) and Jesus never said anything bad about it, he said this For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it. An eunuch was a man who's reproductive organs have been removed,so how could one be born without them? In their slang, eunuch was slang for gay man and also regular talk for an eunuch. Because (as in third world countries today) gay people are thought of as magical and a 3rd sex (but we know that to not be true. When the old testament  speaks about it, you gotta understand that he was coming from the time where his people were (he being Moses) being killed, and he placed A LOT of rules on his people, because he thought that was what was great for his people, and he didn't really understand a lot of things. There are a lot of rules in the old testament that we don't follow today, because Jesus took those rules down. I also hate the Sodom and Gomorrah case, because anyone with a brain can see that the story is about hospitality and some people not being hospitable. No where has homosexuality been talked about. Then when Paul (or was it peter) said that god dislikes gay people, he was speaking to a small community with a lot of different gods who used gay men as whores in the temples, and they did the same thing with women, Paul was only speaking about that, not to everyone else most of the time, when you see "homosexual offenders" they are talking bout temple prostitution, not every homosexual.


Q: Have you ever boycotted/protested against anyone or anything because of anti-LGBT funding?
A: Have I boycotted anything? Yes, to name one is Chick-fil-a.

Q: Have you ever been through a time where you wished you weren't gay?
A: Not at all.

Q:How do you feel about the gay stereotypes?
A: I think, like every stereotype, they are stupid. I don't really pay attention to them, nor do I want to self-stereotype myself. Stereotypes are very damaging on a few levels, for example:

They make someone who isn't part of that "group" to have a misshapen view, and assume anyone who behaves in a certain manner is someway. Then said person becomes self conscious of how they act and limit themselves and others. You know like that angry dad who sits at home drinking and beats his son who wears make-up.

Stereotypes also make people inside the group to feel like they have to put on a certain act to fit in, because you know people always want to fit in somewhere, or because they think that is how they are supposed to act.

On a last note, stereotypes are dumb because what about the people of a group, who don't fit into the stereotype.
They just cause division

Q: I'd like to thank you for participating. Is there anything you'd like to say to any LGBT youth that is going through a tough time right now?
A: Yes, all the LGBT youth and our allies, keep your head up, if people are being horrible at school or at home or where ever, do your best to ignore them, because half of the time, they have their own issues, and right now things might be hard because we are teenagers, which means all these hormones are rushing and our brain isn't fully developed yet, so yes things are hard. BUT remember that one day you will be out of school, which means you won't be forced to deal with idiots all day, and if you're family is abusing you, remember one day you will be able to move out! Never hold what they did in your heart, because that only hurts you, making them the winners. Just love who you are and love everyone that you can. Find adults to support you, find something to live for, help others with what you learn. I think what I'm trying to say can be summed up in the song "Swallow" by Emilie Autumn.